Online Dating - Talking To A Woman For The First Time. Tips

Online Dating - Talking To A Woman For The First Time The first big step in moving from an online relationship to one in the real world is talking on the phone for the first time. As a guy, you are probably going to be ready to take that step before your online match. With good reason, women approach online dating a bit more cautiously than men. Your best chance to talk to her on the phone and eventually meet her is to allow things to move forward at a pace she feels comfortable. You should be willing to take things slow and let her be in the driver’s seat. When you want to talk to her on the phone, simply let her know that you are willing to get her number from the agency when she is ready for your first phone call. Conversation Topics Before your online match calls you on the phone, review her profile and your correspondence with her. Use the information from her profile and your correspondence to come up with a few conversation topics. Write down four or five friendly questions that you could ask her on the first phone call. If your conversation drags or you get a little flustered, you can use one of your questions to help get the conversation back on track. Send An E-Mail After Your First Phone Call If you had a successful first phone call, before you go to bed, send her a short e-mail saying that you enjoyed talking to her. She will definitely appreciate it. This message accomplishes several things:

1. It lets her know that you are still interested in getting to know her.

2. It terms of the next communication, it puts the ball in her court.

3. Her response will give you a sense of her level of interest.

4. It is the best way to help move the relationship forward without you looking pushy.

Talking on the phone for the first time with your online match is a big step toward meeting your match in person. Making sure she feels comfortable is the key to a successful first phone call.

8 tips for perfecting that first phone call


Making the first phone call

Texts and emails are great but there’s nothing quite like a phone call to help you get to know a person. Nervous? Here are 8 tips for handling that first phone call like a pro 

With email, text and WhatsApp available, you can avoid phone calls altogether. But when it comes to dating – especially online dating – calls are still an important part of the process. After all, who wouldn’t feel better about meeting someone after hearing their voice?

Even so, the first phone call can be nerve wracking. You need to make a good first impression but, unlike with an email, you can’t delete anything that doesn’t sound quite right.

Here are eight top tips to help you handle that first phone call – and secure the date:

1. Find a good signal spot

There’s nothing worse than losing signal halfway through your conversation. Pick a spot where you know the signal is strong – or use a landline!

2. Be cheery

Try to keep the tone of your voice light and cheery. You can’t rely on facial expressions so make sure your enthusiasm shines through in your voice.

3. Put the other person at ease

Let the other person know that you’re happy to be speaking to them. You could try to relax them by complimenting them on their conversational skills. For example, when they ask a question, say something like ‘That’s a great question!’ The more relaxed you are, the easier the conversation will flow.

4. Elaborate on your replies

Avoid short answers. Use the questions you’re asked to tell the other person something really interesting about yourself. For example, if they ask ‘How was your day?’, you could reply with something like, ‘It was great! I had lunch at a great sushi bar near work with a friend from school, and now I’m talking to you!’ This tells the person three things about you:

  • You enjoy sushi
  • You keep in touch with old friends
  • You’re happy to be talking to them

5. Change your answers into questions

Asking questions will help you get to know the other person – and show that you’re interested in them. It’ll also help keep the conversation flowing and avoid any awkward silences!

6. Remember, this isn’t an interview

Remember that your conversation should be friendly and relaxed – you’re not carrying out an interrogation. Don’t ask questions just for the sake of it. Try to alternate questions and answers to keep the conversation balanced.

7. Know when to end the phone call

Don’t keep the conversation going too long. If you feel like the pace is slowing, find a polite way to end things. Be as genuine as possible. A good phrase might be, ‘Wow it’s 9 already and I promised my Mum I’d give her a call. Hopefully I’ll hear from you soon.’ This is a valid reason and doesn’t make you sound needy. Unless you’ve already agreed on a date, don’t make a big deal about deciding when you’ll talk next.

8. And finally, don’t ever…

• Eat food
• Chew gum
• Flush the toilet (!)
• Watch TV
• Or make it sound like you’re doing anything else

The person on the other end of the phone deserves your full attention, you don’t really need to multitask by checking your emails at the same time, do you?


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